Happy Hallothanksmas

Fall seems to fly as fast as a colorful leaf in a brisk breeze. Maybe it's because there are several holidays packed into three months. From religious observances and spooky season to the hoopla that happens even before the last piece of Trick-or-Treat candy is consumed, it can sometimes cause a crushing rush to get everything done before the end of the year. But what happens when some of these things aren't done? What happens when we skip the seasonal stress?

I've heard more families forgoing a large gathering for intimate holiday celebrations. Who says you have to cook a ten-pound turkey to show gratitude? I, for one, am thankful when I don't have to cook! But some do it out of obligation (to who?) or tradition—well, it may be time to start a new one.

The number of holiday events can seem overwhelming. Between buying gifts, baking, dressing up and/or avoiding uncomfortable conversations, it can suck the merry, bright spirit right out of the season. If the end-of-year whirlwind leaves you with whiplash, here are a few suggestions for coping:

1. Reframe your expectations. What do you want out of this time? Don't worry about what Great Aunt Maude expects. Light your own festive path.

2. Focus on meaningful moments. Find your reason for the season, whether that means gathering with loved ones or having an excuse to binge movies in your jammies.

3. Get moving. While it's cozy to cuddle on the couch and stare at a screen or crackling fire, it's also a good idea to get up and circulate. Spend time in nature. If there's no tree in the house this year, go ahead and rock around one in the woods.

4. Schedule YOU time. What do you want to do? Read, meditate, craft, bake, watch flurries flutter from the sky. Whatever brings you joy.

5. Share holiday hosting. If you are opting for a get-together, you don't have to do it alone. Friends and family usually ask what they can bring and/or do. Give them a job. If they don't ask, give them a job anyway.

6. Set boundaries. Avoid uncomfortable situations. Decline stressful obligations. You don't need an excuse to say thanks but no thanks.

It's supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year. But it can also weigh heavy under the pressure of tradition. Tis the season to start your own. Make it merry or mundane. It's your time to shine.